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Go to Napa.
One of my best girlfriends has been trying to plan a girl’s trip to Napa for years. She finally booked it for last August and then Covid happened, which caused her to cancel. She has always invited me to join, but each year she was planning it, there was something going on in my life which forced me to say no. Two years ago I was getting married…last year we were in the midst of trying to get pregnant and about to start IVF….and then this year she asked again and my answer felt different. After my last failed IVF cycle in February, I decided that I was going to change…
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“See You In Heaven.”
My Grandmother passed away two weeks ago. She was the last living grandparent I had. She was 92 years old and lived a long and beautiful life. She was ready to go. Seeing someone die is never easy because you know you will never see them again in this earthly life, but it makes it easier to bear when you know that person is ready to go. My Grandma lived a wonderful life. She met my Grandpa when they were young, had 5 beautiful children who made them very proud, and was the quintessential homemaker and supportive wife. She was patient, practical, kind, thoughtful and extremely generous. Her faith in…
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Covid and Self-Care
There has been a big self-care movement going on for a while now and I am all for it. I personally am someone who thinks it’s important to “love” yourself, but more importantly to take care of yourself. The problem is, I don’t think I’ve ever truly known what it means or how to do it. I have, however, experienced the effects on my body when I wasn’t taking care of myself. Some of the major health issues I have had in my life could absolutely be tied back to stress. But the million-dollar question for me always is…how do I truly reduce stress in my life? And even more…how do I take care of…
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5 Pieces of Marriage Advice We Still Use
Rob and I have been married for almost 2 years. I’m not lying or even exaggerating a little when I say that being married to Rob is the best gift I’ve ever been given. I’m not trying to make people nauseous with a bunch of lovey dovey crap…I’m just speaking my truth. I can also say in the same breath, while my marriage to my best friend is amazing, it’s also been very difficult at times. What they say is true- marriage takes work. I do believe if you pick the right person and put work into it, your marriage should be 1,000 times more amazing than difficult though. I don’t know…
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Get Out on the Dance Floor.
I’ve been reflecting a lot about dating and the beginning of relationships lately. I’m not exactly sure why, but I think it’s because it was in April (2017) that I finally was ready to begin dating again. Thankfully for the last time in my life. Since I bare my soul to you about everything else, I might as well mention that I was in a very long-term relationship before I met my husband. We were never married. It was off and on for many years. Finally, four years ago around this time, we ended our “relationship” for good. I wasn’t 100% ready to start dating again, but I felt like I…
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Gratitude
I’m an anxious person by nature. I tend to worry about the million things that could go wrong. I’m an overthinker. I’m a hypochondriac. My husband is the complete opposite of me and I envy him so much for that. There was a period of time after we got married when I was really stressed out (Infertility, IVF, COVID, quarantine, work…you get the picture…). My husband bluntly told me that I was being negative and it was hard to be around all the time. (My husband doesn’t share his feelings too much, so when he does, you better believe I listen!) After that conversation, I reflected and realized I wanted…
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Learn How to Love Your Spouse.
I have made Rob take every personality test you can imagine since we started dating. Lucky him, huh? I naturally have a curiosity to learn what makes a person tick, and of course I have an even deeper interest in understanding the man I am married to. My husband (I’m sure like many other men) has never spent much time “finding himself”/reflecting/learning who he is and how he feels inside, etc. That is until he met me…. (Hehe) My husband hates to admit it, but he’s harmonious…he likes to keep other people happy and not worry about his needs as much. (…I love you babe…) Naturally it was hard to learn…
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Don’t Feel Sorry for Me.
I started questioning myself yesterday after I shared my emotions about starting the IVF process again on social media. Am I sharing too much personal information with people I don’t know? Am I putting myself out there to be criticized? Then I remembered….I stopped caring what other people thought of me about 6 years ago. You see, I’ve been through quite a few tough times (I know I keep saying it, but it’s true). One of the most significantly traumatic times I’ve been through (yes, there are still others you don’t know about) was when I went through a really bad episode of my Grave’s Disease. It was so bad that…
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When Your Dad’s Not at Your Wedding
9 years, 4 hours and 5 minutes ago, my Dad passed away from pancreatic cancer. Our family was all gathered around his bed in the wee hours of the morning watching him take his last breath of life. And when he did take that last breath, I said goodbye to my Dad’s physical body…along with so many hopes and dreams I had for a future with him. Several days before my Dad died, I was able to talk to him in his hospital room. Just him and I. I was so scared to do it because I didn’t want to say goodbye. I will always thank my sister for pushing me to…
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If He’s Not Your Best Friend, Don’t Marry Him.
I love my husband deeply. He is hands down the best friend I have ever had. But if you would’ve told me 5 years ago that my best friend would end up being an Army vet who lives in small-town Iowa, listens to Slipknot and has tattoos….I would’ve laughed in your face because I would’ve thought I didn’t have anything in common with that person. The irony of this…because it’s my life, so there’s always irony….is that after our 1st date, I told my family, “I don’t know…I feel like he’s more of a best friend candidate.” (Girl…sometimes I wish you just wouldn’t talk…) So as with most things in…
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